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Wednesday, October 11, 2017

A work in progress

It's been quite a while since I added to my blog. I read something on my Facebook "on this day" that got me thinking. It was a post from last year with the song "Brave" by Sara Bareilles. https://youtu.be/QUQsqBqxoR4

I'm sure that song has different meanings for people but to me it means standing up for yourself. Speak up especially when no one else will. When I was growing up, I really didn't have that. I was shy, awkward and that meant I was an easy target to be bullied and picked on. I didn't know what bullying was back then. We just thought kids were being mean. I wish I had someone to stand up for me back then. I will never forget being chased home from Redwood and getting knocked down in the snow and having someone hold my face down in it. 

Now that I am an adult, I try to avoid confrontation. I don't like when people are mean and nasty. When people are like that towards me, I hide inside myself. Almost like a crab hiding in its shell. People know what means the most to me and that's my family and those that I love. For the most part, I am outgoing, energetic and love to help others. Some days are definitely easier than others. I know I will always have a bit of that shy, awkward little girl inside who wants to be brave when someone uses my weaknesses to hurt me. 

Please be kind to each other. Please think about how someone else could be feeling. You never know what kind of day or week or even childhood someone has had. They could be dealing with personal issues that you don't know of and a kind or hurtful word could make a big impact.  You can be honest and still be kind. Being "Brave" takes some of us longer than others. I'm almost 50 and still working on it.

Thursday, November 10, 2016

Ramblings of a Scorpio...

I realized it's been quite a while since I posted on my blog. I've been pretty busy with school and family and the house and dogs and cat (not so much the cat lol). There always seems to be something that needs to be done. Finishing school is at the top of my priority list. I need to finish so I can get on with my life.  Also there will be an addition to our family! I will be a Nana again in June. My baby Beckaboo aka dramateen, is having her own baby!! It will be nice to be done with school so I can help her out! As far as school goes, I'm not sure what direction I want to take my career except for the fact that I want to give back. I want to do something to help someone not just feel pretty but good about themselves when they don't have much to feel good about. I'm hoping maybe hospice or children or a nursing home. I have been offered an opportunity to take a class at a salon for wigs for kids! The class is November 13, 14 which is kinda cool since the 14th is my birthday! I'm actually looking forward to this which is funny to me because I am so over school and can't wait to finish!!

Rick is doing great! We are very blessed and lucky that he has made a fantastic recovery! Life is so much sweeter when you realize what there is to lose and how close you come to losing it! There are so many people not as fortunate as us. I have outlived my dad, still miss him every day, and haven't spoken to my mom since Gram died. I can honestly say I have tried. It was suggested that I write her another note just simple and short. I didn't get a reply which doesn't surprise me.

So I guess in closing, life is good. I have a good life with people who love me. (quality not quantity) and I'm living life as best I can, 1 day at a time.

Friday, January 1, 2016

A year to remember- 2015

The year 2015 has brought so much to my life, good and bad. Each year is the chance for a new, fresh start. This year is no different. When I reflect upon my past year, I can’t help but think about certain moments. Rick being so sick and almost loosing him. I will forever have those feelings of dread when he says “I’m just not feeling well” We don’t argue as much even though his socks on the floor by the bed and him leaving the shaving cream out, still drives me nuts. I would be lost if I never got to see that again. He is my best friend and an incredible partner who I'd be lost without.

I don’t want to focus on the sad things like realizing friendships aren’t what I thought they were or people who have hurt me. I need to remember that all those sad or hurtful moments were life lessons. I am not perfect myself but I always have good intentions.

Last year also gave us much to be thankful for. Our dream home was built and we got to move in! Rick’s health slowly improved, I went on a fantastic vacation to Key West, we adopted our insane puppy Ollie, my beautiful girl Becky is back home, I began my education towards my dream job and Rick is healthy again!! Oh wait! I said that 2 times lol.

My goals this year are pretty simple. We will be going someplace warm with sand after this winter ends, a new patio and hopefully a pool for our yard, do some work inside the house, not worry about what people say about me because they aren’t my true friends. learn.  I need to appreciate amazing people in my life and not be so focused on not worrying about if others don't like me. (I do have some incredible friends) I have accepted the fact that some people, family included just don't want to be a part of my life and that hurts but it's their choice, not mine. I need to learn as much as I can at school so I can graduate and be successful in my new career. It does amaze me how we start the year with the best intentions but slowly distance ourselves from the goals. My main goal is for those I love and care about, family and friends, to be healthy, happy and loved. I am so blessed to live the life I live and I will appreciate every day, good and bad. 


Happy New Year 2016!
Janet

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Rick update 6-16-15

It's been a while since I posted an update so here goes. 

We have been back and forth between the Cleveland Clinic main campus downtown and the VA in Lorain and Parma. Most of his pancreatitis issues are still being monitored by his Surgeon Dr. Walsh. I know we have been very frustrated in the past but the more digging into the disease I have done, I realize how lucky we are. Rick's dr is actually 1 of the best there is. Rick is very lucky to be alive. It has been a long, exhausting and draining recovery. I finally think we see light at the end of the tunnel. 

Rick has had about 8 drains so far. He has had them upsized, downsized, replaced due to being pulled out by accident and repositioned. He has had filters for blood clots, stent in his stomach. We have been so lucky that none of these things or the many surgeries and procedures haven't led to any deathly infections. I have managed to keep the drains clear and clean. I have no idea how since I am not in the medical field lol. I guess it was my overprotective scorpio personal to protect Rick and my pure stubbornness to do it the best way possible! 

So anyways...we are finally down to just 1 drain!! They downsized it today to a tiny drain tube with no bulb so it's minimum care. I asked how long that will be in and the Dr. said it was up to me. That made me chuckle. He said I need to keep track of how much is draining. This tube is smaller and will allow the track 
to close up and not leave such a huge hole. So, the next step is removing the filters and stent! We have come a long way because on Thursday.....He will be going back to work!! OMG! It will only be for a few hours but that is HUGE!! I 
can't help but pray things continue to look up. I'm trying to stay positive because being sad and depressed is exhausting lol. It's time to get on with our lives and have some fun!!! 

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

In sickness and in health....

Feeling helpless while someone you love is sick and in pain is a horrible feeling, especially being the control freak that I am. I have prayed, others have prayed and we continue to. I watch the man that I love deal with health issues for months now. It seems like he takes 1 step forward and 2 back. It's back and forth to the Dr's and hospitals for tests and procedures. There are so many teams of Dr's that it's so hard to keep them all straight. Missed work, missed visits with kids, cancelled plans, no energy, lost weight, blood work, tests and meds. I have to be strong because this isn't about me. This is about a vow I made to my best friend. In sickness and health. I just wish I knew what the "plan" was because I have no idea. Is it to make us stronger? There has to be a reason we are going through this. I just wish I knew what it was.

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

I grew up in Ohio but how did I forget how much the winters suck?!

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Time has an amazing way of changing a persons perspective. I think about my life 5 or 6 years ago and how different it was. I would have NEVER imagined I would have gotten remarried, to a United States Army soldier nonetheless. Or that we would have lived in 4 different states, 6 moves all together. I have met so many people and experienced things I would have never dreamed of. We have had to make some tough choices and now that some of the dust has settled and time has passed, I can honestly say I would do so many things differently.  

When I suggested we move back to Ohio, it was for many reasons, mostly our family and friends. The goodbyes were so difficult to the point of painful. Right now I'm sitting here looking at the ice on the windows and the snow outside and that itself is a different kind of painful. That may seem a bit dramatic but if you moved from Hawaii to this frozen tundra, it's not lol. 

So now we are building a big house to live in. Isn't there a saying like "If you build it, they will come?" Well I can picture new traditions of family dinners and holidays at our house. I am probably kidding myself because we have barely heard from any of the people we thought we missed when we lived away.  I thought moving back would be different. The phone doesn't ring any more now that we are back and closer. Our schedules don't have any more dates written in than 4 months ago, probably less. I realize now that if people want to be involved in our lives, they will make as much of an effort as we do. 

I am thankful for the few people that have stayed in touch. The (very) few that have taken the time to include us in their lives since we have been back. Relationships take work on both sides and I realize the miles between won't matter to the ones that really count.

Now I need to find a ticket to some place warm for a little mental break before I snap!

Friday, December 12, 2014

For my Husband

To my sweet husband

I'm watching your chest rise and fall with each breath you take while you sleep next to me. My heart is full of love and I can feel tears in my eyes. Happy tears because I know how lucky I am to be able to watch you do something so simple as breathing while you sleep. We had a huge wake up call almost 3 weeks ago. Things could have turned out so differently. I know you will get your strength back. I also know that this time has brought us closer together. This time has shown us that even at our age, we are not invincible. Days are numbered, life is precious and tomorrow is not guaranteed. We have had an incredible journey in our short 5 years together. Our life has taken us to many places where we have met some great people who have become good friends. We have seen and experienced things a lot of people just dream about. Our story brought us back to where it all began. I'm so happy, blessed and thankful that we can continue making more memories together. You are my partner and I'm so glad that I have you with me to continue our story. Let's make it the best that it can possibly be!!

Love
Janet